|
So,
you’re in love.
It’s exciting, I know.
It seems like nothing could ever be more
wonderful than this.
Did you know that God planned this?
He created us with these wonderful feelings.
This is assurance that the human race would
continue. As wonderful as this is, there are some things you need to
know before making a serious decision.
Girls, if you are dressing to advertise your
body, or are having physical contact on your dates,
you will attract the kind of guy who is more
interested in sex than anything else.
But you may think there isn’t any other kind
of guy out there!
This does represent the majority because it’s
a self-centered desire. The problem is selfishness, common to the human race!
But keep reading. There's hope!
You probably know that a guy can be ready for
sex very quickly.
But the gal takes more time ~ time romancing,
fondling, and loving words.
A selfish guy won’t take the time to care
about her, only himself.
And then the gal will be unfulfilled,
disappointed, and hurt, time after time after time!
Soon she will not want to have sex and will
make excuses why she can’t do it tonight.
Then they each will begin to seek enjoyment
elsewhere. Others
become more attractive than the one at home.
It is surely worth it to find a partner who is
developing in God’s kind of love which is totally
unselfish.
A selfish gal is no fun either!
She will be demanding, nagging, and critical,
and can turn a wonderful guy into a mouse. If he stays
with her, he will become a mere shadow of the man he
was.
What
about dating?
Will dating help us to discover what the person
is really like? It’s
possible, but highly improbable.
The problem is that when two young people are
alone, their sex hormones are going to be talking to
them louder than anything else. That’s why they end up in each other’s arms ~ and more.
And on dates, they both are on their very best
behavior. They
want to make the best impression possible. So it’s
very unrealistic to think that you can get to know
each other this way.
Another problem is that on dates people get
emotionally involved. Their emotions and hormones make
up those wonderful feelings I mentioned earlier. But
when they break up, they each become terribly hurt!
Then they each find someone else, and the
process begins all over again. These break-ups cause
emotional scars that can last for the rest of
their lives.
And, each time you become a little different.
You may have made yourself a little harder and
insensitive in order to protect yourself from being
hurt again, or you may have adjusted your personality
to please that person. So you see that it’s damaging
on many fronts.
Is
there an alternative?
Yes there is!
There are churches that teach their young
people to keep themselves emotionally pure as well as
sexually pure until they find the one that God has
picked for them. And there are good books available if
you ask at your local Bible bookstore.
Now I don’t believe that there is only one
person that is right for you, or that God has a big
chart with a perfect match for every man and woman on
the earth. No. But if you will commit yourself to God’s program for your
life, and trust Him to bring a great partner to you,
He will. See,
He knows your personality and traits very well, since
He made you. And
He knows what will make you the happiest.
He loves you so very much and really wants to
see you happier than you can ever imagine!
What
do we do now?
Do you wonder what you can do if you decide to
keep yourself emotionally pure from now on? Group activities are good.
Also time with the family of your friend is
good. The
very best way to find out what your friend is really
like is to get to know their parents individually, and
their siblings!
Then for other things you can do, get involved
in your church with the children’s department, or in
the choir, or on the drama team.
Be active in God’s work and He will get you
the special someone that you want.
Tell Him what you’d like, but then leave it
to Him. Praise
Him that He’s working, whenever you think about it.
And also, be working on your own maturity.
You need to make sure you are the best person
you can be.
Or else that wonderful person may not want YOU.
Check out my brochures on growing up
spiritually. These are good for your development ~
becoming a loving and peaceful person, kind, patient,
and happy.
Humans
are three parts
We are three parts according to I Thess. 5:23,
“And the very God of peace sanctify you wholly, and
I pray God your whole spirit, soul, and body be
preserved blameless unto the coming of our Lord Jesus
Christ.” This
verse says it’s God’s will that each part of you
be sanctified or holy.
That means set apart and kept pure for Him.
Whole in our body would be healthy. Whole in
our souls would be emotionally stable and unscarred.
If you are already scarred, give God time to heal you.
And whole spiritually would be growing in
maturity ~ like those brochures say.
Another thing that can be seen from that verse
is that we can be attracted to a person in any of
these areas. We
can like a person because of their body or how they
look. Did
you know that when you touch and those exciting
feelings happen, that it is like two electrical wires
touching, and that creates sparks. That’s what it
is. And
these do not last.
II Tim 2:19-22 tells the value of keeping
yourself pure and running from sexual situations. I Tim 5:2 says to treat the girls as sisters with all
purity.
The soul is our mind, will and emotions. Being
hurt from breaking up repeatedly is wounding your
emotions, and that verse says this is not good.
And we can be attracted by our souls. You know
that a straight A student is most likely going to be
comfortable with another straight A student.
They can talk on the same level. Or if a person
is really into swimming, then he will probably like
another with the same interests.
These are soul attractions and are not bad.
But the very best one of all is the spiritual
attraction. Are you both seeking God with all your hearts by daily
spending private time with God in Bible reading and in
prayer? As you are faithful to this, God will be
creating His unselfish love in you. Are you both
interested in the same church and its outreaches?
These will be making you into that beautiful
person that God wants you to be.
And this is the one that will insure that your
marriage will last ~ until death do you part. |
